Disclaimer: The author of this post is personally against any kind of stereotyping. The author doesn't believe in any kind of writing which tries to debase a society or community or in anyway hurt the sentiments of an individual or a group. The content hereforth is merely based on certain personal experiences and attempts to bring to your notice these issues
Searching for a room:
In my early days when i came to Pune, i began to despise the real estate brokers. They do nothing but are their to say -- gimme your money. They have no qualification and have only a support of their network. These people have set themselves a price which they don't deserve and made me realise (which even you might have experienced) that doing a job only gives you work. Money making is a business in itself. Infact why real estate brokers, i have seen brokers who know nothing of the job they claim they can do... they are their just to have a taste of your hard earned money. I have seen people apply for a passport through brokers but they never got them. Some went through brokers for licenses. But they didn't get them. Brokers give you promises... the deliverance is less. Even the ones whom you know personally can loot you more than others.
So next time, please just go through the procedure yourself, their are just a few documents you need. I have quite often found people who come themselves to get their work done instead of throwing away money to the brokers. Make a bit of effort and join these people. You wouldn't really enjoy the broker you paid earning in multiples of your income without PAYING TAX
Found few people, made friends. Found some colleagues, made friends. But unlike your college or social group, "Its a crime on your part to ask people to be liberal". You might find people who cannot accept anything beyond which they could see or have seen. And then, you might only have to choose the people in your social circle and distance from a few others.
But forget the non-liberals, people in Pune are warm and friendly :)
I found it wise that people here in Pune enter the bus from the rear and leave it from the front side. And stopping the bus was well co-ordinated. Unless hinted to stop by the conductor, which he would do so if he finds someone might enter or exit the bus, the bus would continue its state of inertia. And ofcourse, their is the necessary reservation for women.
In my city, women would enter from the front and men from the back. And they would leave from their points of entrances. This would have meant people taking slightly more time than in Pune. I thought that people in Pune don't really stress on gender difference and were more liberal when it comes to gender equality. That was to some extent.
Sometimes, I felt people should consider it in some places. For you see men, they often exhibit their primitive instinct sometimes for fun or sometimes instinctively or that they think its virilie to do so. Cos when it comes to catching a bus, they can run, hop, cling onto the bars of a bus and get in forcefully; sometimes pushing away others. So naturally they can be the ones to enter first and may get all the seats available.
This is common in rush hours, when buses are full and people are in a hurry. And women cannot equal men in this aspect, nor i wish them to do. And with a higher probability of finding jerks, a women is highly likely to see a man not obeying to the seat reservation policies.
I have myself witnessed a man refusing to give his seat to a lady; and the conductor being helpless. In my city, it atleast doesn't happen cos we are more protective of women their; plus its a big city. So in such a system, though logically sound, a women
1. Can enter in a bus if men are not in a rush.
2. Have to stand and lose her reserved seats cos some men don't oblige, the conductors sometimes cannot help
These are only instances and i didn't find women asking for their seats either